Some conflict is inevitable. Psychologists will tell you that it’s even necessary – not so sure about that. Whenever I hear a shrink spout that line, I ask myself – How much conflict is there in the Trinity, hmm?? How often to Father, Son and Holy Spirit have a falling out?
Okay, so in a fallen world, some conflict is inevitable. That may well be true. But it seems to me that 99% of it is both unnecessary and avoidable. So here’s one smart way for avoiding unnecessary arguments.
We’ve all felt like the Ugly Duckling at some point in our lives. We look around at everyone else, and we conclude that we’re worthless. Absolutely worthless.
But God didn’t create you or me, to feel like that. He didn’t create you and me to be the Ugly Duckling. No. He has a much better plan for our lives than that.
They say that marriage is about ’50/50′ – this idea of give and take. You get your bit and I get my bit. Give and take. We have to compromise along the way. It sounds entirely reasonable. The problem is, it just doesn’t work. Here’s why:
It’s absolutely true. Men and women struggle sometimes to understand one another. So in this blog post, all you women out there – I want to help you understand the “male ego” as it’s called.
Often, it gets a bad wrap. But it’s part of how we men are made, and any woman who understands it, has just unlocked the door to her man’s heart.
So, here goes …
So many couples – way too many couples – live a passionless marriage.
With all my heart, I’m here to tell you that that’s not what God has planned for you. Marriage is meant to be a deep, intimate, passionate, life-long relationship.
And there’s a very simple way to recapture the passion; to put the spark back into your marriage. It’s the power of a kiss. Here’s how …
We’ve all heard that phrase random acts of kindness. It makes us feel all warm and fuzzy inside. But today, I want to share something much, much more powerful with you.
Not-so-random acts of kindness. Deliberate acts of kindness.
I recently spent 3 days with a man for whom kindness is a way of life. And what I saw, blew me away.
Marriage is an awesome thing. It’s God’s plan for most of us. And part of that plan is for us to have a passionate marriage. “Hmm …” I can hear some people saying.
Let me shock you. It’s not just you. It’s not just your marriage.
Passion dies eventually … in 100% of marriages. 100% !! according to author and marriage counsellor Dr David Clarke. But there is something you can do about that.
Anyone who’s been married for any length of time will be able to tell you all about the brick wall that can grow up between this man and this woman who love each other so much. Left unchecked, one day they wake up and realise they’r living as strangers under the same roof. Divorce is now a very real possibility.
That was never God’s plan. Find out how you can stop that from happening – with 3 powerful things that you can do to tear down the wall in your marriage.
One brick at a time.